Hi beautiful souls! Welcome to episode 51 of the Jasmine Lipska podcast.
In today’s episode, I am beyond excited to interview my beautiful friend Aileen, who you may also know as Lavendaire on YouTube. Aileen is a successful content creator, inspiring others to create their dream life, and also the founder of the Lavendaire Shop.
She is truly an angel in human form, and in our conversation, we talk about:
- Aileen’s story of how she got to where she is today
- A big lesson she learned in her 20’s
- What self-love means to Aileen
- Ways to practice self-love in your every day life
- How to heal your self-worth
- Where many of us place our sense of self-worth on
- How to create your dream life
- and so much more!
Aileen is an amazing, down-to-earth soul and I am so grateful to have her on the podcast. She shares so many gems and tips with you, which will leave you feeling inspired and empowered!
(3:26) J: I love asking this question for my guests on the podcast, and it’s kind of like a quick fire. What are the three things you are grateful for today?
(3:40) A: That’s a great question. I’m grateful for my puppy Togi. He’s so cute and he just brings joy to my day. I’m grateful for a hard working team because I mentioned before the podcast that I’m preparing for a big launch for my Artist of Life Workbook. So it’s just been very busy. But I have a small team and I just think they’re like an A plus team players that I’m so grateful for. And the third thing I’m grateful for is just the opportunities that I get in my life, things that I’m not chasing, but just show up.
(05:22) J: I wanted to ask you, you probably have a lot of lessons you learned in your 20s – if you could pinpoint one of the key ones you learned, who would it be?
(05:37) A: One of the greatest lessons from my 20s that I would say sparked everything- and it’s so simple when I say it – but I learned to follow my heart, I learned to follow my inner voice. That is just one of the major things that changed everything. Because before I embarked on this personal growth journey, I really listened to what my parents told me to do, what teachers told me to do. I kind of followed society’s format, or kind of the step by step instructions on how to be successful. It was when I started to remove all of that, to drop listening to what other people said, and I started to ask myself: What do I want to do with my life? What do I love? What brings me joy? What am I excited about? Asking those questions and getting those answers and following that was what really changed everything for me.
(6:26) J: Wow, amazing. That is definitely key to listen to your intuition and not live up to the expectations of others. Do you feel that when you started to do that, you just became lighter and more free?
(6:41) A: Yeah, I mean it wasn’t an immediate change because in the beginning, it’s a struggle, because you want to listen to your heart but then you have the practical side in your brain. Also you have a lot of self doubt in the beginning. At least I did, right? I wasn’t sure that I could believe in myself, I wasn’t sure that my dreams were worth chasing. And some people told me “be realistic”. It’s hard to manage chasing your dreams with all those other voices in your head. So I would say the beginning is a struggle. But the more you do it, the more confident you become. Because you see, you actually feel that your life is more exciting. It’s more fun when you follow your joy and you follow your inner voice. And over time, it becomes easier and easier to listen to yourself.
(11:33) J: I know your channel focuses on self growth, self love and creating your dream life, so I’d love to know what does self love mean to you?
(11:45) A: Self love is building that relationship with yourself where you love yourself unconditionally and it takes time to do that. For me, you can define it in so many ways, but it’s treating yourself as your number one best friend, your number one most cherished person in the world. When you think of it in that way, you recognize if I truly loved myself, why would I ever say something mean to myself? Why would I ever do something that would hurt me, or hold me back. We do these things all the time without recognizing, you know, we look in the mirror and we say, “I don’t feel confident” or “this looks ugly”, “I feel short”, “I feel this and that”. It’s whether or not that voice comes from your own head. Or maybe it’s someone else’s voice that you’ve built that’s become your own. Self love is learning to undo all of that and to just treat yourself with more love and be more gentle with yourself. A big part of that is also just being gentle with yourself in terms of not not forcing yourself to be productive, not feeling you have to prove yourself to anyone to deeply know that you are worthy. Just by being alive.
(13:08) J: I’d love to know, what are some practices that you still do today for self love?
(13:27) A: I think now, my cornerstone habits are really journaling, meditation and yoga. Because journaling is for my mind, my mind is always thinking so many things, and it’s just always going. So journaling is a way for me to have a conversation with myself. If I’m not feeling that great, I journal to understand what is it that I’m feeling? What am I like, how can I be kinder to myself? Meditating is just a way for me to ground myself and really detach from my emotions and detach from the stresses of everyday life, I would say. Yoga is really my favourite way to nourish my body because I think taking care of your body really is so important for self love.
(23:35) J: Your channel is also really about creating your dream life and you’ve created that now for yourself. What would be three tips you would give someone at the start of this journey who wants to create their dream life?
(23:52) A: I think the first thing is you have to know what you want, and take time to figure out yourself. It’s a lot of self reflection, because you have to know who you are, to recognize what you truly want. You want to make sure that what you think you want is not what others want for you, but it’s what you actually want. So the first step is defining that and getting clear on what that dream life vision is, what the just the attributes of your life, you know, where do you live? How do you feel? How do you spend your days, who’s surrounding you all these little details, you want to get really as clear as you can with that.
(24:29) A: The next thing is to just take the first step in the right direction. You don’t have to have the entire plan laid out because I certainly didn’t have any idea where I was going. All you have to do is take one step in a direction that you think feels right. And that’s the part that a lot of people get stuck. Some people have a dream, but they never even take action towards it. So I think that first step, action is the most important once you take that action, then maybe the next steps will reveal themselves to you later on.
(24:59) A: Then the third tip is: number one, trust the universe. Number two, be patient and stay committed. Because you can’t predict when it’s going to happen for you. But you have to really have faith that if you’re acting in alignment with yourself, with your soul, and if everything feels right, it will happen for you. Everything that you want will come to you. But you can’t, you know, the timing is not promised. But just have to be patient, and you have to stay committed to the journey.